Dare I Say It

In case you missed it. I wrote an article about Oprah: A Biography. The article was not a review of the book as I had not read the whole book yet. The article was about me making a decision to buy the book and how I came about making the decision to actually read it without any pre-judgement because of the comments on the blogs I read. 

I quoted extract from the book and gave a mini-background info on the author thus explaining why her name encouraged me to want to read the book. I knew that a lot of Oprah fans would dismiss her as did I before I learned that the book was written by her. 

So, I made a point to highlight that Kitty Kelley is renowned for writting about powerful people but has thus far never been sued even though her subjects in the books would claim that everything she wrote was a lie. 

The intention by doing that was never to say Kitty Kelley should be believed because she has never been sued but to put forth a thought that would conjure some debate in one’s mind about the credibility of her books from both sides.

An employee walks into the storeroom and notices that his colleague is stealing supplies from the store. His conscience tells him that what his colleague is doing is wrong and he should report him. However, the man is black and so is his colleague. 

Societal “rule” tells him that he could never rat a fellow black man out so he turns a blind eye on the crime. 8 months down the line the manager of the store tells everybody that he would have to retrench some workers as the store is not making any profit. By the end of that week the said employee and some of his other colleagues lose their jobs and the thieving employee retains his position.


I have never been one to conform to societal script on how one should act, talk or interact with other people. Because of that I have been called every derogatory name in the book; coconut, fake, stuck-up, oreo, stabane, kwerekwere... you name it. 

All that name calling because I refused to be dictated to in the lifestyle I live, the friends I make and the issues I support. My issue with conforming is that, though people think doing it helps others it actually has counter productive results. 

Had the guy reported that his fellow employee is stealing from the store, a lot of people who lost their jobs would not have. I have always maintained that I will tell a black person when he/she is going astray just as much as I would a white person. 

On the other issue, I befriend anyone I like be they black, white, gay, foreign and will disagree with them in a beat if I did not think what they are saying is correct.


OJ Simpson was said to be a victim of racism in his trial by many black people. He later bragged about how he killed Nicole in a book he wrote. Yes he was acquitted and he knew that because of double jeopardy he would not be charged twice for the same crime. His ego compelled him to write that book
Many black people are so quick to point out that they are black when they are supposed to be accountable for their actions. The very same people are the ones who rant about “equal rights”. Racism works both ways. 

There is an act of RACISM and a perceived idea of the racism. The dangerous part about the latter is that it is perpetuated by people within the same race. This is where people use their skin colour to avoid facing facts and being accountable for their actions. 

This annoys me as it belittles the suffering that those who fought for the liberation of this nation had to endure, many losing their lives In the process.

If anytime something is said about a black person that you consider negative you revert to pulling the race card on it, you ought to take a moment and think about people who are actually racially discriminated in that instant and can't do anything about it. 

People in the spotlight are talked, gossiped and written about; it’s the bain of their cosy existence. It comes with the job, be they white, black or any race. Sadly for many blacks everytime something negative is written about a Black Celebrity, it’s always because someone is out to tarnish that celeb because they are black. 

By so doing, they are not really helping the black race because such utterance teaches our kids that they should never be accountable for their actions. I have nephews, nieces and would be a father someday... I would want them to know right from wrong NOT “black right” or “black wrong”. 

I would also want them to know that not every white person who fights or rebukes you is doing that because they are racist. He or she may just be a jerk. 



Lois Mastrangelo once said; 
"Did you ever wonder why they call something so divisive a 'Union'?" 
I personally think such can be said for people who complain about equal rights and yet expect fellow black people to be exempt from being called out on their blunders by virtue of being black. It is the lowest form of hypocrisy. 

By always separating yourself by race you are in a way perpetuating the stereotype. Racism exists  in every day of our lives but to demean its seriousness with petty small mindedness is not only disconcerting but appalling as well. 


Hansie was humiliated and rebuked when he got caught with his hand in the cookie jar. Instead of crying racism, he acknowledged his crimes and endured the repercussions of his actions. 

You did not hear him nor the white community saying he's being put on trial because he is white. ACCOUNTABILITY!!! Now he is somewhat of a hero to other people for being man enough to say, "I erred and take responsibility for my actions"

I will write about about fellow black men’s blunders if I have to just as much as I would if a white person did the same. I will continue to call something bad if it’s bad regardless of whether there is a black man’s name attached to it or not. In that way I know that fellow black man will see the errors and correct them.

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