In Loving Memory Of A Cyber-Friend: Joseph Jefferson

Most young South Africans watch shows like Noah's Arc and they think life is so easy for black gay men in America. Well if you have been following the news you will know that there is an alarming increase in a number of young black gay men in the US committing suicide. This is disheartening as the US is seen as the most liberal country in the modern world.


It makes one appreciate the life he has in Mzansi. Joseph Jefferson once told me that pain knows no borders. The same pain I feel in South Africa when someone calls me a derogatory name is the same that he feels when someone calls him that in the US.

A guy who dedicated his life to saving others ended up taking his own life. His last Facebook Status was: 

"I could not bear the burden of living as a gay man of color in a world grown cold and hateful towards those of us who live and love differently than the so-called 'social mainstream.' Belonging is one of the basic human needs, when people feel isolated and excluded from a sense of communion with others, they suffer. I have been an advocate for my peers and most importantly youth because most have never had a deep emotional attachment to anyone. They don’t know how to love and be loved in return. The need to be loved can sometimes translate to the need to belong to someone or something. Driven by that need….. Most will do anything to belong"
Often the term ANGEL is used very carelessly to describe people once they have passed on. If there ever was a more deserving individual for that label, it would be Joseph Jefferson. Though we never met he was a brother to me in more ways than one could comprehend. It pains my heart that in his hour of need he felt there was no-one to help him and chose to end his life.

I will miss him and surely a lot of his cyber-friends, colleagues, family and many whose lives he touched will miss him too. 

RIP Brother!!!

In Loving Memory Of Joseph Jefferson 1984 - 2010


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